And through becoming a professional submissive, I learned about safety and graduated to dominatrix, or “domme.” I wound up having my first experience with a “dominant.” I sought more information about BDSM (role-playing, bondage, domination, and submission), first from books and then by making friends in the BDSM community. One time, I drove to a stranger’s house expecting a one-night stand.
Thirteen years ago, I was newly divorced and lonely, working days as a singer at Disneyland and spending nights with men from Craigslist.
